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 Alao Yokogi/Getty If someone grows up without the belief that their needs will be met, then they have "really hard relationships," Morehead said. "We don't believe that we can ask for our needs to get met," she said. "We don't think that we can have needs, feelings, or emotions." Anxious attachment, also referred to as preoccupied , is developed when a child has unpredictable caregivers — sometimes they are full of care and praise, but other times they are dismissive and cruel. Morehead described it as "the imaginary spider web where they really want approval, they really want responsiveness, but sometimes they get it and sometimes they don't."